I've had my share of friends over the years, and changed them very frequently as I journeyed through life. I reached a stopping point of moving between friends when I went to college and met up with my batch of friends that with an exception of constantly rotating through a few of them as they moved away; remained constant. I thought that this may be the friends you keep in adulthood.
Leaving California changed that pretty quick. Sometimes I had all those thoughts the article mentions as I rotated through friends, some came into my life, some left just as quickly as they came, some have stuck around or I stuck around with, but as I moved through my pilgrimage, the friendships became more distant. Sometimes I am saddened by this, but know that it is impractical and hard to try to talk to them every day, much less every week!
There are a couple of friends I hurt, and those can be pretty intense because those couple of friends were pretty close. I don't always understand or get the big picture on why this sort of things happen; or even better yet, why I have not reached out to them and simply reconnect. I also discovered that I only have a limited "bandwidth" for keeping in touch and supporting friends at a close and intimate level. The friends I make, and choose to become close with can be many; and it is rather hard to maintain all of them.
So goes the cycling through friends. Sometimes I think my guards kick in and I inadvertently back away from them. What experiences have you witnessed in regards with friends who come and go? Do you have any regrets with any of your friends? How does this article make you feel about the subject altogether?
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